Let’s have a little talk about honesty. Yes, honesty.
When a mom says, “I kinda lost it with my kids a bit this afternoon.” [this happened the other day]
Kinda lost it roughly translates to – I locked myself in my bathroom after totally coming unglued. I want to know why we aren’t really honest with one another?
In the spirit of honesty, life hasn’t been a lot of sunshine and rainbows coming out my…well you know where.
There are seasons when parenting is awesome and fun and so deeply fulfilling I can hardly believe that I get the opportunity to do it. And then you realize your wine glass is empty and someone realizes they forgot to do a project due TOMORROW at 8am.
But seriously, despite the normal ups and downs we’ve had a few things going on with the boys (one in particular) and it’s been challenging to say the least. The emotional, physical and even spiritual energy suck that has happened has meant a total revamp on life & what I spend time doing.
This all peaked last week when things got pretty louse-y. It was slightly irritating and really bugged me, but one of the I realized one of the boys didn’t get the “Share hugs, not bugs” memo, the latter part of my entire week meant cleaning, treating lice. Yes, I too joined the ranks of egg head joining in the infectious fun.
I’m not going to nit pick or anything, but cleaning took up all of the spare time we had, so running was off the grid. Once we were properly deloused and officially lice free, we opted to enjoy a little staycation which included a SURPRISE 10k.
Enter Grunion Run 10k.
A surprise race….shockingly soggy….and a second place sweep.
I’ll spare you details on the pretty standard race other than it was rainy, I ran 45:05 and came in 2nd overall finish for women. But it was quite the learning experience, which can pretty much be summed up by the spirit of Jock Jams.
Let’s Get Ready To Rumble: Let’s face it, sometimes you walk into a race with your game face prepped and ready to roll. You do everything right – sleep, diet, training and the race just doesn’t pan out. Other times you can push through the mile 2 dry heaving (hey, so maybe wine tasting, free champagne at the hotel and a heavy dinner aren’t a great idea the night before a race) and feel great after. For me, I never know which it’s going to be, so I just always have to be ready to rumble.
It Takes Two (hundred): While DJ EZ Rock thought it took two to make a thing go right, I found it’s actually 200 for me. The last few weeks my runs have focused on my cadence [not familiar with this concept, read here]. During this race and I finally found a number that just felt oh so right: 200. I’ve typically been running around 170ish thus aggravating my back and jacking everything up the last few years. But as I’ve slowly increased my cadence I have worked on a shorter stride with a strong mid-foot strike feels oh so right in all the right places and hanging in my happy place around 200.
Whoomp! There It is: While big, highly organized races are fun and there’s a huge buzz about them, there is something amazing about small, local races. I love watching the families participate, showing up 15 minutes before the race starts. Turnout was low because it was raining (note: California breeds weather weenies).
Gonna Make You Sweat: Nah, not much to say about this other than the fact that it’s STILL my favorite running song decades later when I need a little extra oomph in the middle of a long run or race.
What’s your favorite Jock Jam?
What tune gets your feet shuffling when you run?
The lice thing…haven’t been victim yet, but I just know it is coming. Sorry you had to go through it.
Ok, 200 is rockstar status, but that’s why you place second overall in races. There’s a study out showing that 180 isn’t magical, but it is minimal and that many people do better even higher, that being you. I need to pull out my cadence meter again!
Oh the lice is such a hassle and yes if anything cadence has refreshed my math tables in the X6 category 🙂
Noooo. Sorry about the lice Kind of funny you put a Modern Family meme up and in the episode last week (or a couple weeks ago), Lily got lice. And YAYYYY! OMG congrats on 2nd place!!! Amazing job!!
My family thought I was kidding because I actually found the lice while the ep was airing. It was hilarious, and not hilarious all at the same time.
Oh no way haha!!
Parenthood is so challenging. Yes, it’s the most amazing thing in the world, no doubt, but it gets tough, often. You are right, people should talk about it more, it helps to think that it’s hard for everybody.
Congratulations about the race, wow to 45 in the rain!!
Kudos to more honesty! When do we get honest about wanting to cry, kids fighting and why l think I threw my patience out with the trash on garbage day? 🙂
The whole lice experience is so stressful! You have my sympathies. Our school finally had to check every single child in the school to eradicate it. I panic when the kids come home and tell me they had a lice check — it’s happened several times. Thank goodness we’ve only had one child have lice. Imagine three girls with long blond hair — plus my husband and I both have long hair!
I really don’t understand why people don’t talk more about the challenges of parenting. It’s not how we’re supposed to raise kids — we’re supposed to have a community of support. You really ought to be able to say: I could really use a break Saturday morning — can we trade babysitting? But it just doesn’t happen the way I’d like, especially in SoCal. The only thing that’s helped me lately with especially difficult days is the realization that I have all too few days left with my babies. I just went to junior high orientation for my oldest and I cried! What a sap! LOL!
Congrats on a great race — just what you needed to celebrate during this time! I love small races too and have two coming up this month.
Jr High orientation? I’m welling up thinking about it. Last night I almost duct taped my kids heads to their toes so they couldn’t grow any faster.
We are moving to California in a matter of months and this ‘weather weenies’ thing is my number one concern. Right now if we wake up and it is negative 17°C but we have karate we just get dressed and go to karate. Give it a year and I’m sure the kids will be having none of it. The toddler won’t even know he comes from the land of cold. Oh well, I guess they’ll just have to get over it when we come home for Christmas.
Coming to Cali?!?! Where abouts? And yes we can be weenies, but there’s a lot of snow within a quick drive if you’re desperate!
Bay area. I got me one of those smarty pants nerd husband everyone is talking about. Seems they like to congregate over there.
PS – in pretty big on the whole honesty about patenting thing. Motherhood is certainly not all sunshine and roses and we do each other a huge disservice by perpetuating the myths. I’ve written a bit about ‘the things we should talk about’ this year and it had been very freeing to get it out.
Agreed on sharing! And have fun in the Bay Area! Those smarty pants spouses keep you on your toes don’t they?
I am most certain you wanted to curl up into a little ball, my friend. Or maybe you actually did? Ugh. Motherhood. You gotta love it. ((hugs))
Working as a teacher I know lice are heading my way at some point! I actually had a conversation with my boyfriend about it last night and he told me he’d make me sleep on the floor of our house if I ever brought them home!